Sunday, February 21, 2010
I want to thank the Mom's Club of RSM (north?) for allowing me into your group for an evening of fun and fellowship.
I was invited to speak on "Spicing Up Your Marriage" and was there to encourage and give some practical ways to add a little chili pepper to some areas of your marriage.
There are so many ways that we can uplift our marriage and make our husband feel like he is needed, important, respected and desired in our lives.
This is a very condensed version of what was shared that night- Thanks again for having me!
One way is to be his Cheerleader!
Encourage one another as long as it is today... Hebrews 3:13
Be on his side! Let him know he is the Star Quarterback of your team and don't treat him like the water-boy! (yes, I'm guilty!!!!) When he shares about his day, listen! You may not even understand what he is talking about, but listen anyways. When he tells you some good news, be excited for him! TELL him how proud of him you are! Remember that you are team-mates and not opponents! And behind every great man is a great woman....and that's YOU!
Be his Prayer Warrior!
Be joyful always; pray continually..........1 Thessalonians 5:16-17
Do you pray for him regularly? Remember that he walks out of your home unprotected from all the spiritual and emotional arrows that are being thrown at him. Be his warrior as well as a prayer warrior for your family! If you don't do it, who will? I pray that my husband's eyes, ears, mind and heart will be protected from all the worldly stimulus that is coming at him 24-7. I also regularly ask God to help ME to be a good wife, mother and friend to him. I'm not good at any of those and am usually more concerned about my own well being vs. his. I pray for guidance in the choices I have to make for our family, patience with our children as well as with him and for a servant's heart that God will bless.
Be his Love Partner!
Love is not rude............1 Corinthians 13:5
Ok- foreplay starts when he gets home with a big WELCOME! When your husband walks through the door do you look up at him and say, "Hey," with a nod, or do you drop whatever you are doing and go to him and greet him with a BIG HUG and kiss? Every man would love to come home to a hug and kiss- this also keeps him from looking for the physical touch outside of the marriage- being appreciated. You want to be a big golden retriever, happy to see him and showing him you are happy to see him!
If you're not happy in the bedroom, you have GOT to do something about it. Express gently, what you want and what makes you feel good, so that you can make him feel good! It's a WIN-WIN situation!!
Here were some fun suggestions that I shared and some that the ladies shared!
1. Sticky notes- put sticky notes all over the inside of his car while he is at work, with things like, "you rock! I love you! You're the best! Best DAD, Best Husband, You are loved" or scribbles from the kids- make sure to hide some in other places so that even after he has cleaned up all the notes, he will find them even after the event and feel loved.
2. Loading his toothbrush- (from friend at church) putting toothpaste on his toothbrush when you are putting it on yours
3. Warming up his towel or bathrobe in the dryer so when he comes out of the shower it is nice an warm for him. (harder if you have a two-story and the dryer is downstairs)
4.Praying over your husband before he leaves for work (thanks Shannon!)
5.Getting into bed before him naked........
6.Taking a hot bath together
7.Getting a cheap hotel for lunchtime......remember that song, "Afternoon Delight"?
8.Suprising him with a night at home w/out kids---arrange for babysitting!
9. Putting your cute panties in his laptop! This is a good one- and you will immediately get a call from him at work! Memorable, too!
10. Text him or call him at work and let him know you are thinking about him in that way!
Be creative! Sometimes the spontaneous times are the most memorable!!!
And remember that any good relationship takes work- God created your spouse to grow you and sharpen you!!!!
Please do not hesitate to post other suggestions! We are all a work in progress~ blessings!
Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7